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j8ear · 07-14-2005, 11:42 AM

With the caveat of having no experience with any teenagers of my own...

I would discontinue ALL Computer related activities immediately, and let him earn them back if he wants them, and you believe he deserves them...and definately including monitoring, logging and/or blocking software. You can definately be held liable for his activities.

As a former teenage boy yourself you could go a long way to effectively persuading your wife to go along with your experience and knowledge of what being a teenage boy is all about.

I don't know if you know the extraordinary pressures, burdens and inadequacies a broken family and a father who "doesn't want to deal with his BS" can place on a boy, but I suspect you have a clue.

Don't let this get out of hand, be a man, and take care off those who need taking care of.

This young fella is in big time antisocial territory, and he needs a strong effective man to SHOW him how to be a man...instead of devloving into an antisocial deviant who jacks off at 14 to violence and perversion on the internet.

He needs to get involved with PEOPLE...not screen shots or avatars.

Sometimes my postings can come off as having a tone of condescension or are otherwise some how distasteful...that said, I meant nothing of the sort here. I believe you reached out because you already know what is happening and are concerned about it. You know what to do...but are uncertain about how to bring his mother on board.

You've got to find a way...and I think your experience as a former teenage boy is what will suceed. Good luck to you, sir

imho,

-bear

07-14-2005, 11:42 AM	#8 (permalink)
j8ear Gentlemen Farmer Location: Middle of nowhere, Jersey	With the caveat of having no experience with any teenagers of my own... I would discontinue ALL Computer related activities immediately, and let him earn them back if he wants them, and you believe he deserves them...and definately including monitoring, logging and/or blocking software. You can definately be held liable for his activities. As a former teenage boy yourself you could go a long way to effectively persuading your wife to go along with your experience and knowledge of what being a teenage boy is all about. I don't know if you know the extraordinary pressures, burdens and inadequacies a broken family and a father who "doesn't want to deal with his BS" can place on a boy, but I suspect you have a clue. Don't let this get out of hand, be a man, and take care off those who need taking care of. This young fella is in big time antisocial territory, and he needs a strong effective man to SHOW him how to be a man...instead of devloving into an antisocial deviant who jacks off at 14 to violence and perversion on the internet. He needs to get involved with PEOPLE...not screen shots or avatars. Sometimes my postings can come off as having a tone of condescension or are otherwise some how distasteful...that said, I meant nothing of the sort here. I believe you reached out because you already know what is happening and are concerned about it. You know what to do...but are uncertain about how to bring his mother on board. You've got to find a way...and I think your experience as a former teenage boy is what will suceed. Good luck to you, sir imho, -bear __________________ It's alot easier to ask for forgiveness then it is to ask for permission.