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The_Dunedan · 07-10-2005, 06:28 PM

OK, here's my situation. I need you guys' advice.

I'm currently "Seeing" a terrific girl. I've known her for years, and we've dated before. I say "Seeing" because we've decided not to label it anything officially. There's a lot of snuggling, some sex, alot of spending time together, but it's very low-maintainance and low-stress. Lots of fun, but certainly operating on a deeper level than "fuckbuddies." We share similar tastes in damn near everything, agree politically/socially, and generally have a splendid time together.

The oddity comes in here; this lady is encouraging me to date other people. Not just to date them, but apparently to date them with an eye towards forming long-term relationships...with her as well as with them. She's quite openly told me that she supports the Muslim/Jewish ideal of one man having four wives in his household, and told me that if anyone needed such an arrangement, it was me. She thinks it's an exceedingly practical, self-reinforcing sort of thing, and from an anthropological standpoint I agree. I have -zero- idea where that idea came from, but it's been clearly articulated on a number of occaisions.

Example; a few days ago, I mentioned to her that I had encountered an extremely good-looking acquiantance at my workplace. I gave her a brief description, and her immidiate ( and somewhat irritated ) response was "And WHY didn't you ask her out?!" How does one respond to that?!

I must admit that the idea is somewhat attractive ( stereotypical male, I know ) but it just seems so bloody COMPLICATED. What do you guys think?

07-10-2005, 06:28 PM	#1 (permalink)
The_Dunedan Junkie	Odd Issues; Harem? OK, here's my situation. I need you guys' advice. I'm currently "Seeing" a terrific girl. I've known her for years, and we've dated before. I say "Seeing" because we've decided not to label it anything officially. There's a lot of snuggling, some sex, alot of spending time together, but it's very low-maintainance and low-stress. Lots of fun, but certainly operating on a deeper level than "fuckbuddies." We share similar tastes in damn near everything, agree politically/socially, and generally have a splendid time together. The oddity comes in here; this lady is encouraging me to date other people. Not just to date them, but apparently to date them with an eye towards forming long-term relationships...with her as well as with them. She's quite openly told me that she supports the Muslim/Jewish ideal of one man having four wives in his household, and told me that if anyone needed such an arrangement, it was me. She thinks it's an exceedingly practical, self-reinforcing sort of thing, and from an anthropological standpoint I agree. I have -zero- idea where that idea came from, but it's been clearly articulated on a number of occaisions. Example; a few days ago, I mentioned to her that I had encountered an extremely good-looking acquiantance at my workplace. I gave her a brief description, and her immidiate ( and somewhat irritated ) response was "And WHY didn't you ask her out?!" How does one respond to that?! I must admit that the idea is somewhat attractive ( stereotypical male, I know ) but it just seems so bloody COMPLICATED. What do you guys think?