Okay, so i've searched the threads around these parts, trying to find some advice. I was able to find some similar threads, but not exact, and since they were older ones, thought I might start a new one. So forgive me, please, if I've bounced proper etiquette. Here's my situation...
I was with my boyfriend for about eight months last year. He was my first and so far my only. I'm almost 29, by the way. And yeah, he nearly fell out, too. We had a satifying sex life for awhile and then due to multiple stressors in our lives, things kinda fell apart. So, he left in November. He started calling again in February and we came clean with quite a few issues. His main being that I was overweight, one of mine being that he'd never given me an orgasm and I faked it (I felt
so guilty that I had to come clean). We kept talking and eventually met for lunch in April. Unbeknownst to him, I'd lost 45lbs (I needed that kick in the butt--I've lost 80lbs total in two years--but eww! extra skin!), gained back a LOT of my self-esteem and we ended up having hours of conversations on the phone about trying again. Enough history, sorry.
We've been back together for about six weeks and starting last weekend he wasn't able to quite finish when we had sex. First, he just said "It isn't going to happen, you're just too wet". Didn't realize that was an issue, so I just kinda made sure I showered first, etc. Happened again with a BJ and then last Monday, I get "you've got to help me out here, it leaves me frustrated all day when you can't get me off". He's not always an insensitive bastard, I promise. But I'm looking for maybe a little advice... I'm not all that great at being on top (he's got a really wide pelvis), he complains that he's "doing all the work" (which I second, and feel bad about), and I'm still pretty new at this. The whole wetness thing I read about and I've tried a couple of those things, but we haven't had sex in a week. After he told me he's not going to be my "coach", I wasn't really in to it. He's hung up on the fact that I can have a solo orgasm and not one with him, the size of his penis (naturally), whether he satisfies me and I'm so frustrated I could scream! And I'm pretty worried that the more frustrated I get, the worse the situation is going to get overall.
If anyone has any thoughts on positions to help with the wetness issues, stretching/improving flexibility (yoga's not cutting it), and maybe some meditation ideas (to keep me from knocking him upside the head), I'd really appreciate it. I'm not at all concerned about the orgasm issue... at least not mine.
Thank you, ladies, in advance, my head's been spinning!