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Originally Posted by Sultana
I'm glad things are going better, but I agree with Tecoyah about not using the ring...I mean, didn't you think (and reasonably so) that the gift was "a symbol of love and acceptance with no strings attached and there would be absolutely no resentment harboured" in the first place?
I understand that Moms flip out (believe me, I Do). But to even think of reneging on a gift of this magnitude, with all the emotions attached to it leads me to wonder if it could happen again, before or after the wedding.
I think it could be a good way to show that you will graciously but firmly not tolerate this kind of behaviour. But that's me.
Bite me once, shame on you. Bite me twice, shame on me.
(Is it biting? Or burning? Or smacking? Heh, can't remember.)
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No, no, I completely agree with you. Which is why I said that certain conditions would have to be met and I'm not sure that I can be completely satisfied that they ever will be. I am not going to accept this ring, get married, and then have her decide she just cannot deal with it after all and want it back.
And the only reason I would consider accepting the ring would be if this is her way of apologizing and saying that everything is done and over with... I don't want to be the one who says "Thanks, but no thanks."
I think things will be much clearer after Sunday's conversation.