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I appreciate all of your suggestions .. I hvaent been on the forums for a few days .. and actually have used a few techniques (just plain not being passive) that have seemed to improve things so far ... in the long term I hope to gain confidence and keep going in the right direction..
strangely enough we've seldom done anything apart from traditional sex (ie. fantasy, etc) but this weekend we stepped back a bit and allowed each other to see the personal side of each other sexually. We've taken time out to watch each other while masturbating .. so we can see how we each perform solo. For her it was a big turn on and she couldn't help but jump in to help (which was GREAT). I was able to also jump in and tweak her nipples while she was masturbating and she had her largest "personal" orgasm ever.
I think these are good steps as trust lies at the base of my issues and working through our individual trust issues together has helped.
I will let you know how things go and feel free to post comments/questions if ya want.
thanks.
Silver Tiger
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