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I had a similar issue as your boyfriend abaya. I am an atheist and just see getting married by some sort of religious figure as hypocritical. I also never understood why I need the government's OK on who I want to have kids with and grow old. The government has enought to say about my life...
Add to this that for the longest time, I swore I would never get married. I just saw it as a waste of money that had no real purpose... I changed my mind on this. A wedding ceremony, at its most basic form is a time when you stand up in front of friends and family and declare your love for another person. A time when you declare that you are going to commit to this person. It *is* a significant moment in ones life.
Our ceremony was a little different from the norm. Our parents walked down the aisle and we both walked down the ailse together (the whole giving the bride thing always creeped me out). Some friends came up and read some relevant poetry. My wife then explained why she was there that day and said some vows she had written. I in turn did the same.
We had some more readings and then it was over.
We pretty much married ourselves. I suppose in the eyes of the law we are common law but there were just over 100 people there that day who witnessed the two of us getting married.
We only received a bit of flak in the early days from some of my my wife's religious relatives (oddly the one who is an Anglican Deacon showed up and even said a grace before the meal). The one's who didn't show did attend the wedding of my wife's cousin about a month later. A *very* traditional wedding in a big church with all the trimmings. They were seperated in less than a month.
We just celebrated our 12th anniversary.
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