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It is important to be very clear within yourself about what has gone on - the clarity allows you to dismantle the upset, to get control over it. You can write it down on a piece of paper divided into 3 horizontal spaces. In the first space write down what happened - exactly, with no editorial comments or interpretations. This is key. The last space write down all your thoughts about what happened, your interpretations - call it your story about what you see went on, and what you tell yourself in your head when you are locked in that negative spiral of obsession. The middle space you use for writing the effects this has. How has the situation controlled you, what areas in your life are now lacking or that you feel you have lost control over. This is the cold analysis of how your story of what actually happened has impacted you.
What you need to be doing is take that spiral of unhappiness and turn it into just another of those constant streams of internal dialogue that goes on inside all of us. It has no weight. It is not wisdom, or sense, or anything. It is just the voice that is running inside our heads. Be aware of it, but don't let it run your emotions, or your life.
Not a magic bullet, but possibly a constructive approach to what is happening. All the best to you.
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And now to disengage the clutch of the forebrain ... 
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