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Since you are good friends, talk to him about it. As much as it might seem to be an easier choice by hooking up with him, it could cause complications that could have been solved by talking about it.
Let’s say you don’t talk about it, and things go all the way. You’ve put him in a bad situation. He now has to decide whether or not to tell his current girlfriend what happened. Either choice will bring consequences of some sort (though they may not be apparent early on). To make things worse, you’ve done this right before you left to study abroad. This could turn out (not saying it will) like making a mess in the kitchen, then going for a bit & leaving the clean-up to someone else.
If you don’t ask, and nothing happens, then you might find your time abroad wondering about him, and the “what if’s.”
Although it might be the scariest course of action up-front, talking is the only way I see of knowing without causing harm. Make sure you are honest about your feelings, and the different side of him that comes out after a few drinks. Maybe he truly cares for you, but is afraid to take the leap from his current girlfriend to you (does he know your feelings?). Maybe he just doesn’t know how he acts after a few drinks. Either way, the best solution I see is to communicate this to him, and see where it goes.
I wish you luck!
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