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You know, being a listener can make you a terribly popular person--most folks love talking to someone who *actively* listens.
Very basically, that means being truely interested in what the other person is saying, and showing it (the previous posters have mentioned great methods), not just being a monosyllabic bump on a log. It takes investing a bit of time...and a bit of yourself. It also can mean taking a risk--but what do you have to lose?
If you feel your life experiences don't offer much grist for the conversational mill, then do something about it. Take classes. Go places. Experience things. Do things you think interesting people would do, even by yourself at first if neccessary. What hobbies do you have? What hobbies would you like to have? What is important to you?
These questions aren't to dog you, just to stimulate some self-examination for a solution. You seem willing to self-examine, which is terrific. So many people have problems and never even consider that it may have something to do with them. Just doing that means you're on the way to a solution.
Woo, am I channeling cheerleaders today or what? :P
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