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Just to add to what StephenSa and Nisses said . . . as you are listening to someone talk, and you think it's someone you may want to get to know better, be sure they know you are interested and are paying attention. Eye contact is important, position your body facing the person (we send lots of non-verbal signals that speak volumes on our behalf). An interpersonal relationships class would give some tips, and I know there are some great books on the subject. When someone mentions something of interest to you, ask questions about it or add your own experience with the topic. Once you hit on having something in common with someone, perhaps invite them to do something where you can talk more or engage in whatever the activity happens to be.
I went through a similar situation to what you mentioned; moving to a new house (for me this included new city, new school) when I was in jr high and I went from being well known and well liked to withdrawing from other kids . . . that's another topic, but I just wanted you to know that I can relate.
Also, check out the news (paper or internet, any source). Find some articles that interest you. This will give you topic ideas to bring up to keep a conversation going. My S/O is more of the quiet type, and many of his customers follow sports. So he keeps up on what's going on so he can talk about it with customers.
As with anything worthwhile, conversing with people and making friends does take practice but it gets easier!
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Onward, through the fog . . .
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