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I find dad's are pigeonholed into a traditionally male role, most of the time, in a relationship whith kids. The disassociated hunter bringing food home to the woman and things. My relationship casts both my wife and in into the role of nurturer/authoritarian with my daughter. I am trying to start up a daycare and I get the feeling that people would rather see a woman doing this job than me. It makes sense, socially, so I'm not angry. Take a look at a list of male celebrities who openly like children and you will likely find most of them to be pedophiles and politicians. This kind of mindset would make me look twice at a man opening a daycare if I weren't one and were looking for full-time child care. I know another broken family in which the parents are not living with each other and the child is being shuttled back and forth between the parents' living spaces every day, (the father and child were victim to domestic abuse and the custody trial is still pending) and it breaks my heart to think that in a society where custodial rights are generally given to the biological mother that a violent woman might be considered for partial custody.
er.. i think i began ranting a while ago..
Drider_it: There is nothing wrong with motherless homes, inherently.
Doodlebird: What happened, if you don't mind, with your relationship with the mother of your child?
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We're all black sheep and we know it..
So don't fsck it up for the rest.
-- Sick of It All; Yours Truly
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