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The problem with planting devices or setting traps to catch the partner is that if they don't turn up any evidence you might get even more suspicious. If you thought a tape recorder planted in the car would catch her activities, and it didn't, you might think 'Well, she's not cheating then'. Or you might think 'That didn't work, I'll try something else' and go even further, and be more intrusive and perhaps eventually go to extremes. A bit of a self-fulfilling prophesy.
You're in a tough place though. If you think she might be cheating then sitting down and explaining what you are afraid is going on may not work, because she might have convenient excuses or cover stories. All you can do is work out whether the distrust is coming from her activities or your own insecurities, and work through them. Keep an eye out for signs in the meantime, but try and make it the best relationship ever.
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