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Dude, you're reading way too much into all of this. Don't chase girls or categorize them a 'friends' and romantic interests. Just go out and have fun. If you like this girl, romantically or otherwise, your best bet is to invite her out. If she comes, great, if not, don't sweat it. If I were in your situation I probably wouldn't assume romantic interest on the strength of a cup of coffee together, but I wouldn't think 'okay, now she's a friend' either.
My experience is that these things tend to work themselves out. She'll make it obvious what she wants as time goes on or you'll make your move and get rejected and move on.
That brings me to another point. Romantic rejection is a bit like getting a needle. If you're tense and trying to avoid it, you'll never get anywhere. But if you accept that it's going to happen and get it over with the first time you'll realize it's really not so bad. I've been shot down my fair share of times and have remained friends with a lot of the girls who told me that 'it's not the right time' or 'we're just not good for each other'. Hell, one of them designed the tattoo on my shoulder.
So, yeah. The biggest, best advice I can think of to give a guy in your situation is not to overthink it. Instead, realize that you are an attractive young man (and I guarantee that there are girls out there who are attracted to you, no matter what 'type' you are), develop a bit of confidence (easier said than done I know, but crucial all the same), accept yourself and just let life happen.
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