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maleficent · 06-17-2005, 03:12 PM

You've got a bit of a stalemate.

She doesn't want to have sex until she is either married or engaged, and she's not backing down from that. Those are her beliefs. Her choice.

You want her to change her beliefs so you can feel satisfied. It's not fair to her to ask her to change her beliefs when she's been upfront about them all along.

How old are you both? Do you love her?

Ask your self how important sex is in a relationship? is she important enough to you for you to wait to see if you do end up engaged or married? If sex is more important that what you currently have, and as a young guy, that'd be a pretty normal reaction, then end it with her and find someone else.

Do not pull the "unless you have sex with me, we are breaking up" manipulation card. That's not fair to her and you'd be getting what you want for the wrong reasons. Otherwise it's lots of masturbation and cold showers for you...

06-17-2005, 03:12 PM	#3 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	You've got a bit of a stalemate. She doesn't want to have sex until she is either married or engaged, and she's not backing down from that. Those are her beliefs. Her choice. You want her to change her beliefs so you can feel satisfied. It's not fair to her to ask her to change her beliefs when she's been upfront about them all along. How old are you both? Do you love her? Ask your self how important sex is in a relationship? is she important enough to you for you to wait to see if you do end up engaged or married? If sex is more important that what you currently have, and as a young guy, that'd be a pretty normal reaction, then end it with her and find someone else. Do not pull the "unless you have sex with me, we are breaking up" manipulation card. That's not fair to her and you'd be getting what you want for the wrong reasons. Otherwise it's lots of masturbation and cold showers for you... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.