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kangaeru · 06-15-2005, 08:38 AM

So, I post a lot on here when people ask for relationship advice, and a lot of times what I say comes off as kind of arrogant, shallow, know it all, etc. I'm a big believer in "The Game" and all that stuff. So anyways here is MY relationship dilemma, which I wouldn't say needs solving, per se, but I want to hear some opinions. So here goes....

This girl works in the gym I work out at. She's got an amazing body, she's the kind of girl who will work out in short shorts and a sporta bra on a hot day and make your workout last an extra half our because you spend so much time staring at her.

I've never really talked to this girl before the past 2 days, but I've seen her working at this gym for about a month and a half, since I started going again. I played the cool, I'm not too interested in you card, and it worked perfectly, because then when I started getting 'ins' to talk with her (she drives a car which has my college sticker, UMass on it, although her sister graduated from there and she went to arizona state). So I started chatting with her over a protein shake and really got to know her...she told me about pretty much all the shit going on in her life, how she just broke up with her psycho ex boyfriend, who was living with her and her family. How he's kicked out now, but still calls her like 7-8 times a day, sometimes crying on the phone. He's the kind of guy who would see another guy talking to her and would get super loud belligerent and try to fight anybody. Their break up is definitely over, I want to say...the kid is a cokehead alcoholic, who is violent and has the maturity of a 12 yr old...shouldnt be too hard to walk away from.

Meanwhile I'm talking with this girl about our views on US foreign policy, and we're still just flirting. I mean holy shit I've been struck by lightning, a drop dead gorgeous girl who also thinks on the same level I do...amazing. We get into talking about our partying habits and it comes out that we both smoke a lot of weed. So when our conversation kinda dies, and its on a weird topic (a major car crash she got into in high school), I'm like, on a lighter note, let's go smoke some buds, it's a beautiful night out and this sad talk is depressing.

Fast forward to an emptied country club I know of, amazing chill and get high spot. Good make out spot too, which im sure didn't go over her head. We're smoking a blunt, we're high as hell, and she starts showing me pictures on her phone. Her and her boyfriend....dude looks like a hairy slob. Whatever that's nice--then, another lightning bolt strikes. She shows me a picture of her with her face all goth'd out, as in black eye liner with crows feet, black lipstick, and shes in this dramatic pose against a wall with a giant knife over here head (held in her other hand) with her eyes looking all scary...she's like yeah i get this other side of me that comes out when I get high, that's why I do it. I get bored sometimes and I'll do shit like this.

WOAH WHAT? Holy crap. It gets better. Then she starts asking me about what I think of religion and god...and I'm like I have no belief in religion, but I believe in energy and ya da bla bla. And she's like, I have a performance I do for myself...it's the rebirth of energy. She thinks when you die you either move up a notch in the karma chain or you move down a notch, depending on how you lived your life. She does like 3 different phases of rebirth or something. I wasn't about to ask her to show me, but this just strikes me as being like...bizarre behavior? I had NO idea this was what I signing up for when I started flirting with the 'hot chick who works at the gym'.

Okay now because I'm an open minded individual and I feel like this doesn't make her a bad person, just a little quirky, I should let it slide. Honestly it's kind of a turn on--the thought of how she would be in bed, considering how perfect she is physically, and how she has all this crazy personality....well you can do the math.

So here are my worries....

First off is psycho ex boyfriend aka the typical 12 yr old meathead complex. The guy is violent, no doubts about it. If i get into something with this girl, and he sees me with her somewhere or finds out im with her and who I am, I'm going to have hell to pay. If he sees me with her, I'm not gonna have to fight him--he's going to fucking attack me. I'm not really so worried about that, I'm 6'2 190lbs work out, studied some martial arts, I can handle myself...but I'm worried he'll bring friends, or weapons or something and I'm gonna get myself in between a looney stalker ex boyfriend and his fixation.

Second is, if I am mainly subduing my 'wtf' alarms about this girl's freaky behavior (which is definitely a thing she keeps in the closet, I would never have known) mainly because a) I turn it around and view in a way that it becomes a turn on and b) she's just drop dead hot and I would probably want to have sex with her no matter how weird she was.

After the little weird lapses she had, we talked about a lot of other stuff, and I mean deep shit...like energy, where it comes from, how we got here. Talked some about what we're doing in school...I have real conversations with this girl, so this situation becomes extremely grey. I'm not being purely superficial about her looks because she reaches opinions and uses logic just like I do...she's seriously like myself in female form (her birthday is 6 days after mine, March 27th, for those of you who like to know that kinda stuff. So both of us are Aries). But this other psychological side she has, this darkness, as well as this crazy situation with her ex boyfriend, who called like 5 times while we were hanging out...I'm not sure how to play this.

She wanted to hook up that night...she offered to go somewhere to 'chill' some more but I told her I had to work early, which surprised her I think. Don't think guys tell her No too often. So the plan today is I'm going over to her house to fix a computer thing for her at 10:30, she's out of work at 10, and after that...hanging out and pretty much no doubt getting something on. But once I do that I'm kinda past the point of no return...at least with psycho boyfriend and no longer bein able to say I haven't touched her.

So advice, suggestions, thoughts, bring it on.

Thanks =)

06-15-2005, 08:38 AM	#1 (permalink)
kangaeru Crazy Location: on the road to where I want to be...	I just met the girl I've been waiting for...and she's freaking me out So, I post a lot on here when people ask for relationship advice, and a lot of times what I say comes off as kind of arrogant, shallow, know it all, etc. I'm a big believer in "The Game" and all that stuff. So anyways here is MY relationship dilemma, which I wouldn't say needs solving, per se, but I want to hear some opinions. So here goes.... This girl works in the gym I work out at. She's got an amazing body, she's the kind of girl who will work out in short shorts and a sporta bra on a hot day and make your workout last an extra half our because you spend so much time staring at her. I've never really talked to this girl before the past 2 days, but I've seen her working at this gym for about a month and a half, since I started going again. I played the cool, I'm not too interested in you card, and it worked perfectly, because then when I started getting 'ins' to talk with her (she drives a car which has my college sticker, UMass on it, although her sister graduated from there and she went to arizona state). So I started chatting with her over a protein shake and really got to know her...she told me about pretty much all the shit going on in her life, how she just broke up with her psycho ex boyfriend, who was living with her and her family. How he's kicked out now, but still calls her like 7-8 times a day, sometimes crying on the phone. He's the kind of guy who would see another guy talking to her and would get super loud belligerent and try to fight anybody. Their break up is definitely over, I want to say...the kid is a cokehead alcoholic, who is violent and has the maturity of a 12 yr old...shouldnt be too hard to walk away from. Meanwhile I'm talking with this girl about our views on US foreign policy, and we're still just flirting. I mean holy shit I've been struck by lightning, a drop dead gorgeous girl who also thinks on the same level I do...amazing. We get into talking about our partying habits and it comes out that we both smoke a lot of weed. So when our conversation kinda dies, and its on a weird topic (a major car crash she got into in high school), I'm like, on a lighter note, let's go smoke some buds, it's a beautiful night out and this sad talk is depressing. Fast forward to an emptied country club I know of, amazing chill and get high spot. Good make out spot too, which im sure didn't go over her head. We're smoking a blunt, we're high as hell, and she starts showing me pictures on her phone. Her and her boyfriend....dude looks like a hairy slob. Whatever that's nice--then, another lightning bolt strikes. She shows me a picture of her with her face all goth'd out, as in black eye liner with crows feet, black lipstick, and shes in this dramatic pose against a wall with a giant knife over here head (held in her other hand) with her eyes looking all scary...she's like yeah i get this other side of me that comes out when I get high, that's why I do it. I get bored sometimes and I'll do shit like this. WOAH WHAT? Holy crap. It gets better. Then she starts asking me about what I think of religion and god...and I'm like I have no belief in religion, but I believe in energy and ya da bla bla. And she's like, I have a performance I do for myself...it's the rebirth of energy. She thinks when you die you either move up a notch in the karma chain or you move down a notch, depending on how you lived your life. She does like 3 different phases of rebirth or something. I wasn't about to ask her to show me, but this just strikes me as being like...bizarre behavior? I had NO idea this was what I signing up for when I started flirting with the 'hot chick who works at the gym'. Okay now because I'm an open minded individual and I feel like this doesn't make her a bad person, just a little quirky, I should let it slide. Honestly it's kind of a turn on--the thought of how she would be in bed, considering how perfect she is physically, and how she has all this crazy personality....well you can do the math. So here are my worries.... First off is psycho ex boyfriend aka the typical 12 yr old meathead complex. The guy is violent, no doubts about it. If i get into something with this girl, and he sees me with her somewhere or finds out im with her and who I am, I'm going to have hell to pay. If he sees me with her, I'm not gonna have to fight him--he's going to fucking attack me. I'm not really so worried about that, I'm 6'2 190lbs work out, studied some martial arts, I can handle myself...but I'm worried he'll bring friends, or weapons or something and I'm gonna get myself in between a looney stalker ex boyfriend and his fixation. Second is, if I am mainly subduing my 'wtf' alarms about this girl's freaky behavior (which is definitely a thing she keeps in the closet, I would never have known) mainly because a) I turn it around and view in a way that it becomes a turn on and b) she's just drop dead hot and I would probably want to have sex with her no matter how weird she was. After the little weird lapses she had, we talked about a lot of other stuff, and I mean deep shit...like energy, where it comes from, how we got here. Talked some about what we're doing in school...I have real conversations with this girl, so this situation becomes extremely grey. I'm not being purely superficial about her looks because she reaches opinions and uses logic just like I do...she's seriously like myself in female form (her birthday is 6 days after mine, March 27th, for those of you who like to know that kinda stuff. So both of us are Aries). But this other psychological side she has, this darkness, as well as this crazy situation with her ex boyfriend, who called like 5 times while we were hanging out...I'm not sure how to play this. She wanted to hook up that night...she offered to go somewhere to 'chill' some more but I told her I had to work early, which surprised her I think. Don't think guys tell her No too often. So the plan today is I'm going over to her house to fix a computer thing for her at 10:30, she's out of work at 10, and after that...hanging out and pretty much no doubt getting something on. But once I do that I'm kinda past the point of no return...at least with psycho boyfriend and no longer bein able to say I haven't touched her. So advice, suggestions, thoughts, bring it on. Thanks =)