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To my way of thinking, it really doesn't much matter where the problem came from. When he says he can't control himself that really in a way makes the problem worse. It's kind of like a murderer using insanity as a defense - if they're a murderer and a lunatic, do we want them on the streets? No! Or like someone who gets drunk and is then abusive - being drunk is not an excuse, it only compounds the problem. Basically anyone who does something like that is broken (as in not functioning correctly) and I'd steer clear.
The only way I'd even consider staying in a relationship with someone who did something like that is possibly if he promised to change, with the utmost possible sincerity, remorse, and soul-searching, and then followed up on it by going to therapy or anger counseling. Even then, I'd be wary of getting too close or making an emotional investment because chances are he'll do it again and the longer you've been together the more painful it will be when you have to walk away. Really I think the best thing to do is to follow your instincts and get out before things get any more difficult. There is no place for that kind of behavior in a loving relationship.
Sorry for being so blunt but the story is alarming. Best of luck to you.
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