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jRuntlets · 06-12-2005, 06:55 PM

Here's a little backround info:
My boyfriend and I have been dating since Dec., and have been friends for 6 years. He's been in the millitary for 4 years, and served a year in Iraq. He was married for a year but is now divorced. He takes himself pretty seriously, meaning when he leaves something behind he gets mad at himself ect. He's never been angry at me. Until tonight.

What happened tonight:
We were sitting on the couch after eating dinner, messing around (ie, I was tickling him), he ended up swallowing the hard candy he was eating. In trying to keep from choking on it he ended up throwing up and making a pretty big mess in the bathroom. When he came out I made eye contact with him and opened my arms to give him a hug. In return he made a fist and punched me in the stomach. I saw what was coming and stepped back, because it was clear he was stepping into the punch. I moved out of his way as quickily as I could. I am not hurt, just so everyone knows. His mom was standing not even 5 feet from where this happened. He went to get the mop and his mom said something, he threw the mop on the ground and stormed out.

When he came back he gave me a hug and said he was sorry and went to clean up the mess. Later I went outside while he was picking peaches to talk to him and he said he was sorry again. He explained that he gets very mad and doesn't know what he is doing and wasn't able to stop himself. I told him there's no excuse for hitting someone, and sorry doesn't fix it. We left it there, and either I'll call him later this week or he will call me.

So my quandry is what to do? My instinct is to be done. If he doesn't know what he's doing how can he say he'll never do it again? As well as the fact that he could really hurt me next time. Or should I say, okay this is a one time thing and forgive it. My fear with that is that he'll seriously injure me. Although he's never shown signs of being violent I really don't know what to do.

Thus far my plan of action is:
-Call his mom, and ask her if a. she saw, and b. he's ever done anything like that before.
-Give myself some time to cool off and talk to some friends.

From there I'm stuck, can anyone offer any advice?

06-12-2005, 06:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
jRuntlets Crazy	Serious Problem... Need Help Here's a little backround info: My boyfriend and I have been dating since Dec., and have been friends for 6 years. He's been in the millitary for 4 years, and served a year in Iraq. He was married for a year but is now divorced. He takes himself pretty seriously, meaning when he leaves something behind he gets mad at himself ect. He's never been angry at me. Until tonight. What happened tonight: We were sitting on the couch after eating dinner, messing around (ie, I was tickling him), he ended up swallowing the hard candy he was eating. In trying to keep from choking on it he ended up throwing up and making a pretty big mess in the bathroom. When he came out I made eye contact with him and opened my arms to give him a hug. In return he made a fist and punched me in the stomach. I saw what was coming and stepped back, because it was clear he was stepping into the punch. I moved out of his way as quickily as I could. I am not hurt, just so everyone knows. His mom was standing not even 5 feet from where this happened. He went to get the mop and his mom said something, he threw the mop on the ground and stormed out. When he came back he gave me a hug and said he was sorry and went to clean up the mess. Later I went outside while he was picking peaches to talk to him and he said he was sorry again. He explained that he gets very mad and doesn't know what he is doing and wasn't able to stop himself. I told him there's no excuse for hitting someone, and sorry doesn't fix it. We left it there, and either I'll call him later this week or he will call me. So my quandry is what to do? My instinct is to be done. If he doesn't know what he's doing how can he say he'll never do it again? As well as the fact that he could really hurt me next time. Or should I say, okay this is a one time thing and forgive it. My fear with that is that he'll seriously injure me. Although he's never shown signs of being violent I really don't know what to do. Thus far my plan of action is: -Call his mom, and ask her if a. she saw, and b. he's ever done anything like that before. -Give myself some time to cool off and talk to some friends. From there I'm stuck, can anyone offer any advice? __________________ Horses come and go, but some leave permanent hoof prints on your life.