My girlfriend and I recently had a pretty long talk about what's happenning in both our lives right now and I'd really like your takes on this. A little background is in order however. I didn't really know she was very interested in me until I kissed her. Unfortunately that was the night before I had to be gone for some crappy competition for a week; Thus setting the stage for our relationship. The week I got back was finals week at school and the next week she had to go to home. So here we are three weeks into a relationship and already we may as well be long distance. After her week at home, we both had graduation so we got to see each other for the whole weekend, although both our families took a bit of our time. We had maybe two days together. She headed home after graduation on Monday and I headed home to Boston on Tuesday... for three weeks. Coming back before I headed south to start my job, she picked me up at the airport and we planned on having three days together. Well, as noted in an
earlier thread, my roommate made that a futile attempt.
Now I am in St. Louis training to be an airline pilot and she is home for the summer before she starts med school in the Fall. Right before she left for home she asked me if I ever thought we were setting ourselves up to get hurt. My response to this is rarely, but it doesn't matter because we should worry about getting hurt.
Today we had a long discussion about what's happenning in the fall. She understands that I can get to her school pretty much whenever I want due to the job perks and that this is pretty common practice in the industry. That is commutting to work across states and even the country. Her main issue with the situation is she feels like she'd be an awful girlfriend because she wouldn't be able to spend much time with me when I visit since she will most likely have so much work.
I understand this predicament since my dad was in medical school and we have talked for hours before about how much work was done at med school. To me, there is no reason to end a relationship just because one thinks they may be a bad girlfriend or boyfriend. I believe that is up to the other party to decide. This is especially true since we haven't even got to the point of having to deal with the actual situation yet. I feel we should give it the benifit of the doubt and give it a shot. If it doesn't work, then hey, at least we tried. It would kill me to know we gave up on this just because of a little hypothetical situation. At the same time, she mentions that a breakup in the middle of the school year, if it happened, would be exceedingly rough, which I can understand.
All in all, I really care for this girl and want to see her succeed in med school and would do all I can for her while she's there. As I've told her, school comes first and I understand if she doesn't have time. It seems as if she's been running this through her mind a lot lately as she has not been as affectionate as she was before we last saw each other.
I can honestly say I will not sleep well tonight.
Any recommendations, opinions, comments?