I'm a firm believer in "when you meet the right person, you just KNOW" You've been saying that you want a girlfriend for a long time, right? Well, you want to find the RIGHT one, don't you? This chick doesn't sound like the right one- she's not treating you the way you would like to, she's causing you distress and apparently doesn't care, and she isn't giving you what you need and want. Just because she isn't fitting into the puzzle of your life doesn't mean that no one ever will. Martel and I would one day like to add another woman to our marriage, but we're letting it take its own course and not pushing it. Sometimes, when you want something really badly, desire takes over and makes you forget WHY you want that thing in the first place. Desire is the root of all suffering, doubly so in relationships. Take a month off from wanting a girlfriend- focus that energy on Ratbastid and yourself instead. Go get a pedicure, facial, or a massage. Read a book, go for walks in the evening, take up yoga. Volunteer somewhere. Do something different with yourself, and grow from it. Then, in a month (or when you feel ready) come back to the girlfriend thing. How has the past month changed you? Do you feel better about yourself, and your situation? Work towards bettering yourself, getting over self-doubt, and solidifying your own self-love. When you exude love, live in love, and show the world that you love yourself and wake up each day with confidence, others will see that change and be drawn to you. And, one day, a wonderful woman who feels the same way about herself will be drawn to you, and will give you the love you need. I think that when people start relationships out of needs that they want the other person to fufill, the relationship is strained from the start. Everything you need is within you, the secret being tapping into it.
And all y'all who are offering up your opnions of her situation- she asked for advice, not opnions. If you'd like to discuss open relationships, post in the discussion forum.