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No, I don't. Being nice is its own reward, and in some lights can be seen as a defence mechanism in itself. It is much harder to be hurt when you decide you are going to respond to everything with kindness. It is easier to console yourself when things dont go right because you know you did everything you could, and if it didn't work out, it was because the other person has too many issues. Being nice shows a strength of character, but is often mistaken for weakness, or over-interest. It is neither of those things. You really should try it. It's much better than being unpleasant and lashing out at people. You might find that by being nice, you are better able to deal with your own problems, and feel less inclined to lash out at people.
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