Honestly, I really don't understand
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I just can't get my head around this idea. Would you mind clearing some things up for me?
Isn't ratbastid upset that you're in love with someone else?
Why do you need validation of your lovability from more than one person at a time? Don't get me wrong, you are probably very lovable, but isn't it a kind of a slur on ratbastid to say that you need *more* love than he can give you? Either he is very mature and super-stable in himself, or he is tearing up inside. How would you feel if the roles were reversed?
I can't even begin to imagine what this must be like - it hurts my head, and my heart. I know that might make me sound like some old school traditionalist conservative, but I know that it's hard enough being in love with just one person. Purposely trying to maintain more than one loving relationship just seems fraught with problems. I wish I could offer some advice, but I just can't.
You've put me off the idea of multiple relationships even more than I was before - it sounds dreadfull! Good luck, and I hope it turns out OK
Edit: I think I may have got the wrong idea here - are you still in a loving relationship ratbastid or not? And if not, is your friend still in her relationship with her guy/girl?
If it's just a straight one-on-one relationship, then it sounds as though you are investing more emotion into the relationship that your friend is. Which is one of the oldest stories in the book, we've all been there. It feels horrible, and the pain seems as though it will last forever, but it wont. I really hope you work it out
