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JustJess · 06-10-2005, 08:20 AM

^^^ ShaniFaye, I think you've got it. anon8, if you feel ready* to live with your girlfriend, then I suggest finding a place for both of you to move into. It can feel awkward moving into space that someone is already settled into, no matter the money situation, so it's reasonable to want the two of you to have a new place. Try to avoid having either person depend on the other, at least in the beginning.

*And about that - don't move in with her unless: 1. you can support your half and feel comfortable doing so. 2. you feel comfortable with her ability to support her half. 3. you are willing to have one of those conversations about money, how you will deal with paying rent, utilities, etc. 4. you feel okay about her personal habits - i.e. you're messy, she's not, etc.

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JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	^^^ ShaniFaye, I think you've got it. anon8, if you feel ready* to live with your girlfriend, then I suggest finding a place for both of you to move into. It can feel awkward moving into space that someone is already settled into, no matter the money situation, so it's reasonable to want the two of you to have a new place. Try to avoid having either person depend on the other, at least in the beginning. *And about that - don't move in with her unless: 1. you can support your half and feel comfortable doing so. 2. you feel comfortable with her ability to support her half. 3. you are willing to have one of those conversations about money, how you will deal with paying rent, utilities, etc. 4. you feel okay about her personal habits - i.e. you're messy, she's not, etc. __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.