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Originally Posted by maleficent
First off - {{{{{HUG}}}}}}
Now... until you beleive yourself to be loveable, you aren't going to be sure that others really do love you as well, and will need that constant testing of their love. If only you could see yourself the way that the folks in the land of TFP see you... You are an amazing woman... you are intelligent, beautiful, kind, sexy as hell, great sense of humor, you are what most people would aspire to be. (And I know you didn't start t his thread to have your ego stroked either)
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AMEN!
In hubby's and my relationship we have not developed close relationships such as you have with another couple. We have become good friends with one couple though. Recently the woman in that particular couple has struck out on her own in a hunt for other men. This is apparently with her husbands blessing. We had them both over recently and saw a tension between them that concerned us. How to approach it, we're not sure. I did find that her other 'interests' seemed like she was less interested in me. I can choose to think that I'm not good enough or I can choose to think that she needs constant validation which I am not giving her. This could be the case for your girl. Perhaps she TOLD you about the other girl hitting on you to see if you would get jealous. Jealousy to some people equates 'love'. I don't want to put her down but if you can see things from her point of view you might see that it has nothing to do with you but everything to do with her ego needing extra attention. You can choose to ignore things or you can choose to try to preen that ego and see how she responds. Just remember that if this is the situation for her that she will constantly need this particular kind of attention to feel content where she is with you in the relationship. Are you able and willing to work at the continual maintanance necessary then?
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