A relationship where you feel like you're having to do all the work while the other person keeps going on their merry ole way isnt what you need IMO.
Relationships are a two way street, I know you know that, but I dont know if you realize that you are worth more than trying to convince someone to be with you, when the way you are naturally should be all the RIGHT person needs...and there should be no need for "proving" anything. You know good and well that the person that is right for you will see everything about you and love you for it and will do it in such a way that you dont have these kinds of questions....thats how you know its the RIGHT person.
Obviously I dont know anything about D, other than what you've posted from time to time, but it sounds to me like she's all about her....and while we all have those kind of days where it is like that...it shouldnt be a constant. You are far too good a person to be chasing after somone that seems to be giving less that her responsible share to a relationship. You need to remind D that you and Rat have an open relationship, that you want someone to care about and receive that in return...you are not a swinger.
Some people dont understand that Swinging and Open Marriage are two different things. You are SO worth more than this woman is giving you.....should I come up and tie her up and torture her in the way that only I can?
I've told Rat many many times I'd like to get to know you better...ie in person not "online" because Dave and I love him so much and he's so much fun when he's down here in Atlanta, that you must be too. Of course Im too opinionated for you to love me....my point in saying this is....you had D, and I think she's more of an infatuation that "love" and she's not giving you what you need and you need to find the person that can.
