Being a working mom or a stay-at-home Mom:
Which would you like to be if/when you have children?
I am a sahm after a few attempts at going back to work, once for quite a while until I got pregnant with our second child. I miss the interaction other adults/customers at work provided and being able to help 'pay the bills' but am thankful for the privilage to be at home with my girls. I will admit it has put me in a place that I LOVE with myself and my girls. I also know it has made me a bit lazy, but that's another story
Which do you think has more value?
I think whatever works best for those involved. I can't say one way is better then the other because they each have thier own benifits. Seeing Mom and Dad doing thier best at all times gives kids something to look up to and grow to learn. I feel that can be done in many ways, stay at home or not. Like Mal said, I think its all about the involvment of BOTH parents reguardless of the fact they are working or not. I've seen to many cases where one stayed home and one worked, but only the one at home was invovled and it backfired hugely.
Which do you feel is better for the child?
I again have to say it all depends on the parent(s) and how they choose to spend the time they do have with thier kids.
What would/will YOU choose: to be a working mom or to stay at home with your children?
I have chosen to try them both and after much consideration have removed myself from the work force. I miss being able to have that little bit of cash that's just mine (as hubby is a pretty nice guy like that..haha) and being around other adults. I am pretty lucky to have a Mom and Dad who love thier Grandbabies, so we do get to get out once in a while, but I also have friends who are pretty welcoming to our whole family. But I don't miss work as much as I did my girls. I'm not a perfect mommy with a perfectly clean house or any of that, but I am here and able to be with my kids when they need me and when I need them (cuz I just need that little smile sometimes to make my day, it reminds me I'm loved no matter what...and that's kinda cool).
So yeah, I don't feel that I have a place to make a decision as to what's better. It's all a learning experience for each person/parent/child.
I am also very happy to see this kind of thing being so pleasantly discussed. When I first read the title I was a bit 'nervous' because these kinds of things can go in a million different directions. Thanks for a chance to once again share my views without having to censor them
