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sillygirl · 06-09-2005, 06:05 AM

I agree with what a few people have said.

I think it's valuable for a parent (whether it be mom or dad) be involved in the child's life. My mom and I never really got along, but she was at home all through my education, and I at least felt secure in the fact that very very rarely would I go home to an empty house. Mom now has to work, and my youngest brother often comes home to dad, who is 'done' being a parent, whether he'll say it or not. Since then, he has been able to come and go as he pleases (til Mom gets home) and has gotten in enough trouble that he got kicked out of his school and has to attend an alternative school. This is not because he's a troublemaker.. he never got in trouble til he was missing out on the attention of an attentive parent.

I want to stay at home with my kids. However, I think I might go stir-crazy if I were to do that my whole life, which is why I am now considering teaching. I can then be at home when my children are at home. I want them to have the stability of having a parent at home when they get home, whether it be their dad or me.

This might also have something to do with how I was raised, in that women are supposed to stay at home and be the homemakers and the mothers and men are supposed to be the breadwinners and support the family. While I think there is great wisdom behind that, I also think that men should be expected to do more than go to work, then come home, crack open a beer and sit in front of King of the Hill, etc at night. Having one parent involved and one not can be just as detrimental to a kid as having both uninvolved. (ie, mom at work and dad uninterested)

06-09-2005, 06:05 AM	#30 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	I agree with what a few people have said. I think it's valuable for a parent (whether it be mom or dad) be involved in the child's life. My mom and I never really got along, but she was at home all through my education, and I at least felt secure in the fact that very very rarely would I go home to an empty house. Mom now has to work, and my youngest brother often comes home to dad, who is 'done' being a parent, whether he'll say it or not. Since then, he has been able to come and go as he pleases (til Mom gets home) and has gotten in enough trouble that he got kicked out of his school and has to attend an alternative school. This is not because he's a troublemaker.. he never got in trouble til he was missing out on the attention of an attentive parent. I want to stay at home with my kids. However, I think I might go stir-crazy if I were to do that my whole life, which is why I am now considering teaching. I can then be at home when my children are at home. I want them to have the stability of having a parent at home when they get home, whether it be their dad or me. This might also have something to do with how I was raised, in that women are supposed to stay at home and be the homemakers and the mothers and men are supposed to be the breadwinners and support the family. While I think there is great wisdom behind that, I also think that men should be expected to do more than go to work, then come home, crack open a beer and sit in front of King of the Hill, etc at night. Having one parent involved and one not can be just as detrimental to a kid as having both uninvolved. (ie, mom at work and dad uninterested) __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...