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Originally Posted by ratbastid
There's no such thing as a "normal 2 month grief period".
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As usual, I agree that ratbastid speaks the truth. I think I had about a 2 YEAR grief period on the last major relationship... and I didn't care if that was "abnormal," because that's simply how long it took me to get him out of my system.
Granted, I wasn't throwing up or smashing walls, but I think you'd better give yourself some serious time and distance to just fucking HURT, because sadly, that is all you will be able to feel for a while. That doesn't mean you should hurt yourself or others, though. PLEASE see a therapist... many of us have been there (me too).
The good part is that yes, over time, it DOES change. You change. And then one day you wake up and start to realize that it just throbs, instead of a stabbing pain... and then later it becomes a dull ache... and then eventually, it's a healed scar. Take the time to feel the whole process, though. Don't force it down into yourself, don't try to escape from it.
And, someone already said this, but don't be her friend. Don't even try. Completely avoid her if at all possible; no communication, no seeing her, no asking mutual friends about her. It is absolutely necessary for cleaning out the emotional pipes. It takes at least 6 months to do this, usually longer...
We're here for you, and we've been there in the same place.