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not meaning to hijack this thread, and if you think I should make a separate thread feel free to tell me, I find it really hard to tell my SO what I like in terms of him using his hands or mouth on me down there, and not because I don't know how to tell him, but because if I start to talk and kinda trying to "teach" him so to speak, he looks at me like he's saying "why are you telling me what to do"/"don't talk it kills the mood"...I find this a little frustrating and really wish we could communicate better but he says that sometimes we talk too much during sex and it kills the "lust" if you know what I mean. Any ideas on how to approach this in a different way? And no, I haven't really talked to him directly about this because I was hoping to get some advice on how to tell him in a non-crude way...
I'm all for constructive criticism and I often ask him if he's enjoying what I'm doing but he's not very talkative and is usually happy...and won't tell me what to do or whatever
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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