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Having friends outside your partnership
I've always been in the line of thought that a person has to be happy with many aspects of their own life, before they can be happy in a relationship. Additionally, when a couple gets together they should continue their happy lives both seperate and apart. Meaning... I have my friends that I hang with, she has her friend that we hang with, we have mutual friends, and every now and then she can hang with me and my friends, and I with her and her friends.
Since I have been with my fiance, only since I moved back to NY, where when I came back, most of my friends had gone on with their lives forcing me to find new ones. I found her first. All along I've promoted the idea of her going out with the "girls", and me with the guys, but for one reason or another be it finances, or whatever, neither of us really had "apart" time. Fast forward a year, and I'm making friends and hanging out maybe once a week, she thinks that something in the relationship is lacking if I need to have friends outside of her. Automatically she thinks that I'm gonna meet some girl and think the grass is greener and leave her. I'm not that type of person, and I think that by not she should know that. Mostly I think its insecurity because of the lack of her sex drive due to her BC, but there will be another topic on that soon enough...
Should I not need my friends outside of our relationship? I encourage her to go out with hers. but she doesent.. I have the job I love, and the women I love, all the aspects execpt for friends... I dunno.. What do you all think?
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