this is strictly my opinion...and it may be a little harsh...but oh well
She's 35....she's old enuff to pay for her own 2nd wedding. No way in hell should you parents be footing the bill for it. let me repeat NO WAY IN HELL.
Im remarrying this year and Dave and I are paying for the whole thing. His parents keep trying to help, since its Dave's first marriage...and when we've needed a big chunk of money at one time for a deposit we've accepted help....and then it was paid back (or is in the process of being paid back). My daughter is giving me away since my father gave me away the first time (and I dont recall anyone giving me back to him lol)
If you want to go strictly by ettiquette here are two things I found on an etiquette site for remarriages
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Bill Battles ~ For the second wedding, typically the bride and groom host their own affair. It is equally common for the parents of both the bride and the groom to offer some financial support. However, if the parents have already contributed lavishly to the first wedding, they may feel, and rightfully so, that they have already done their part.
Presence as Presents, Wedding Gift Giving Etiquette ~ As with any occasion, wedding gifts for a second marriage are never expected and never required. The guest of honor is always pleasantly surprised that his/her friends and family are generous enough to give a gift in addition to attending the affair. Since the second time bride and groom each are already coming from established homes, the typical wedding gifts are not appropriate for a second wedding. For second weddings, gift registries are even more important so that guests who wish to are able to purchase something the bride and groom truly desire. As with the first wedding, no note of the registry should ever be made. Those who are interested will ask.
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http://www.gettingremarried.com/wedd...te_advice.html
I can understand some parents would naturally want to help out with expenses, note I said HELP OUT, not pay for the entire thing.