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My 35 year old sister is getting married for the second time this summer. Her first wedding was one of those over the top mega productions which I suspect left our parents in debt for some time afterwards. Now that she has decided to marry the man she has been living with the past two years, she thinks that she would like to do it in the same manner parental debt and all.
My wife says that etiquette would suggest that anyone who gave her a gift or helped financially with the first wedding shouldn't be asked to do so again. I think that may be a bit harsh, but I don't want our parents on the cusp of retirement to be drawn into the royal wedding part two.

When I talk to my parents about this they say that it's their little girl and she deserves the wedding of her dreams. Pointing out that she had the wedding of her dreams doesn't hold water with them.

When I talk to my sister she downplays the size and cost, and suggests that she's really doing it for us, her friends and family.

Short of offering my parents a little financial support on this, what can I do? If I offer to contribute isn't that going to encourage her thinking that this is all for us, and in no way an inconvenience to anyone?