Sage

I'll go with everyone else and say that not only is her behavior abusive towards you, but if you were in the US (which I gather you're not) and the DSS (Social Services) got wind of her behavior towards your daughter you'd bet your behind they'd have an agent out there THAT DAY to take the child away from her. Her behavior hints at either a severe deficiency to deal effectively with stress, or a severe mental imbalance (i.e. bipolar) or both. Right now it sounds like she might be suffering from either depression or bipolar disorder, I'd say it's more likely to be depression given the circumstances she is under (stay-at-home mom in the middle of moving and buying a new car).

Bottom line, if you were a woman and she were a man, her behavior would be considered serious abuse. She is obviously incabable of communicating her feelings in a calm and directional manner when she feels under pressure. Her yelling at your daughter "when she doesn't do as asked" is very troubling, because it sounds like she's not able to understand that small children don't comphrehend the way that adults do- who in their right mind expects a 2 year old to sit down and speak only when spoken to?

Get your wife some help NOW if you want to save yourself and your daughter from a severely traumatized existence for the rest of your lives.

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