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i think that as much as any of us here on TFP would like to help, i think at least two types of councelling is needed. first and foremost is personal councelling, and secondly marriage councelling.
i think there are so many issues and undertones, that its not possible for any one of us to give any judgement (ie. leave her, or do this, or do that). of course we can give suggestions or bring up issues for you to think about.
but i think there are a few avenues to pursue...but i dont think that the 'ultimatum' is a good idea (ie. 1) stop now, 2) get councelling, 3) or im out of here . maybe just the first two choices would be a good idea,..ie. stop or get councilling, sound a lot better than divorce...talk of divorce isnt such a good one in this case.
ive read and re-read the posts DJ..what struck me was this...
"I ask her to please stop and if she doesn't, I walk away. This just makes her more angry though. She says when I do that it's like me saying that I'm above her and that I don't deem her worthy of listening to."
i find it ironic that that by her shouting at you, its like saying that she is above you. theres an inferiority complex here... once again self esteem could be an issue, but i definately reccomend proffesional help.
we are all just lay TFPers here (im a builder myself), so on a proffessional level, its hard to give answers without knowing signs to look for, although there have been many great suggestions made i must say.
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