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I don't know what to do about this. I absolutely hate it. My wife, however, thinks that this kind of behaviour is absolutely normal and that my problem is that I don't understand her.
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What was her family situation like growing up? It doesn't excuse itat all, but this might just be what she's used to... Maybe she comes from a family of screamers... (Or watched entirely too much I Love Lucy and Ricky Ricardo is a role model)
When she starts yelling, what do you do? People can only do to you what y ou allow them to do, if you sit there and take it, or you scream back, she's not gonna get the idea t hat she's doing anything wrong. (Maybe it's how her mother treated her father and her father just sat there and took it)
What's sad is that your child sees this, and will grow up thinking it's normal behavior.
I dated a screamer for a while... it wasnt anger so much with him, as his family dynamic, they were all a bunch of very emotional people - way over the top emotional people. When he yelled, I found the best apprach was to lower my voice and continue talking, the person will often match the voice of the person they are talking/screeching with. Or leaving the room could be an option as well...but that may set off a whole other set of problems
After a while it got too exhausting so I just bailed out...
Good luck