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DJ Happy · 05-23-2005, 10:58 PM

As I write this I feel as though there is absolutely no recourse for me in my current situation.

My wife is lovely. She is kind and caring and funny and has a great ass. The problem with my wife is that she is completely unable to handle any level of stress. As soon as something stresses her out in the slightest, be it our 2 year old daughter who won't come when she calls her, or the car that we wanted to buy failing its mechanic's examination, she flips. She screams and shouts and becomes abusive to all around her, especially myself. When I get offended by this because I'm being told I'm a bastard and an asshole and I don't care about anyone but myself she tells me that she's just stressed and that I shouldn't take it personally, which I find incredible.

Currently we are trying to buy a car and move house, which are obviously stressful undertakings. I am fighting hard to get a permanent transfer at work, so I am basically doing 2 jobs (my own, plus the one I want so as to show what I can offer them). In doing all of this I am running around like a blue-arsed fly, at home and work. Yesterday she phoned my office, asked for me and was put through to the conference room where I was in an informal meeting. One of my colleagues answered the phone and received a tongue-lashing from my wife as to why the receptionist put her through to what she assumed was the wrong office (this very thing had happened earlier in the day as well, but that time she asked for Happy and my colleague passed the phone over to me - easy). I could hear her from the other side of the table and quickly ran around to get the phone from him, after which I received a tongue-lashing of my own. When I got home I told her that this sort of thing was not on and was handed another tongue-lashing about how I don't care about anyone but myself, how I thought my work colleagues were more important than she was and that I never side with her on anything, all while screaming at the top of her voice. Our daughter was an unfortunate witness to all of this.

Earlier in the day she had screamed at me when I was trying to give her directions that she already knew ( I didn't know she knew until she screamed at me) and screamed at me when I phoned her from work and she was trying to feed the baby.

I don't know what to do about this. I absolutely hate it. My wife, however, thinks that this kind of behaviour is absolutely normal and that my problem is that I don't understand her. Unfortunately I do understand her - I just don't like it and don't think I can live with it for much longer.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can handle this?

05-23-2005, 10:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
DJ Happy Psycho	Angry wife As I write this I feel as though there is absolutely no recourse for me in my current situation. My wife is lovely. She is kind and caring and funny and has a great ass. The problem with my wife is that she is completely unable to handle any level of stress. As soon as something stresses her out in the slightest, be it our 2 year old daughter who won't come when she calls her, or the car that we wanted to buy failing its mechanic's examination, she flips. She screams and shouts and becomes abusive to all around her, especially myself. When I get offended by this because I'm being told I'm a bastard and an asshole and I don't care about anyone but myself she tells me that she's just stressed and that I shouldn't take it personally, which I find incredible. Currently we are trying to buy a car and move house, which are obviously stressful undertakings. I am fighting hard to get a permanent transfer at work, so I am basically doing 2 jobs (my own, plus the one I want so as to show what I can offer them). In doing all of this I am running around like a blue-arsed fly, at home and work. Yesterday she phoned my office, asked for me and was put through to the conference room where I was in an informal meeting. One of my colleagues answered the phone and received a tongue-lashing from my wife as to why the receptionist put her through to what she assumed was the wrong office (this very thing had happened earlier in the day as well, but that time she asked for Happy and my colleague passed the phone over to me - easy). I could hear her from the other side of the table and quickly ran around to get the phone from him, after which I received a tongue-lashing of my own. When I got home I told her that this sort of thing was not on and was handed another tongue-lashing about how I don't care about anyone but myself, how I thought my work colleagues were more important than she was and that I never side with her on anything, all while screaming at the top of her voice. Our daughter was an unfortunate witness to all of this. Earlier in the day she had screamed at me when I was trying to give her directions that she already knew ( I didn't know she knew until she screamed at me) and screamed at me when I phoned her from work and she was trying to feed the baby. I don't know what to do about this. I absolutely hate it. My wife, however, thinks that this kind of behaviour is absolutely normal and that my problem is that I don't understand her. Unfortunately I do understand her - I just don't like it and don't think I can live with it for much longer. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can handle this?