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Old 05-22-2005, 08:02 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by maleficent
I truly believe that for people to be happy in a a life long relationship, they need to have a life by themselves before they can share a life wtih someone else, otherwise there are a lot of what mighthave been moments.
Exactly. Until you learn to be comfortable with yourself, how can you expect to be comfortable with someone else?

You are wise beyond your years, Crow. I don't see why you can't explain yourself (reservations and all) to your girlfriend. I would just make it absolutely clear that your hesitation to move in together isn't mistaken for rejection.

If she had no where to go that would be a different story, but make such a tremendous jump in the relationship (a jump that could possibly ruin the relationship) just because she's having a hard time...well, I hesitate to say because I don't know either of you, but I think your girlfriend is being a bit selfish.
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