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ShaniFaye · 05-22-2005, 03:13 AM

so my house can be foreclosed on because he cant/wont pay for it? and because of the terms of the divorce we are both responsible for it? A house that I have worked my ass of for almost 10 years to pay for? And because his name is both on the property and the mortgage (we owend the property before the house was built) and the cops, lawyers, you name it, have told me that I have no RIGHT to kick him out....because he has put liens on the house to bail his g/f out of jail when she got arrested for possession and selling it would leave me with NOTHING....do I need to keep going?

I swear, and Im sorry this isnt entirely directed at you, but I told Dave in tears this morning at 1am, if ONE more person says....well why dont you move out I was going to go postal.

First off, we have been looking for a place to move to where I can afford both a rent payment AND a mortgage payment, Im in Atlanta, thats not an easy thing to do. 2nd off, if we leave the house will be destroyed, he's already threatened to burn it down.

I know people mean well when they say that, but jesus christ, do you really think I WANT to be living in this? Do you think I'm NOT trying to do what it takes to get away from it?

My sister was a crack addict for years.....she successfully got off after using for 4 years, no drug treatment program, no 12 steps, just the desire to better her life when my parents took her child away and her ex husband was committed for 1st degree murder because he shot someone in the face while they slept because they wouldnt wake up to give him more dope. She stopped...cold turkey...it wasnt easy but she did it, and I have more admiration for her than anyone will ever know, especially now.

Sober they think they dont have a problem.....Fucked up they dont care about anyone but themselves and their next hit.

05-22-2005, 03:13 AM	#11 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	so my house can be foreclosed on because he cant/wont pay for it? and because of the terms of the divorce we are both responsible for it? A house that I have worked my ass of for almost 10 years to pay for? And because his name is both on the property and the mortgage (we owend the property before the house was built) and the cops, lawyers, you name it, have told me that I have no RIGHT to kick him out....because he has put liens on the house to bail his g/f out of jail when she got arrested for possession and selling it would leave me with NOTHING....do I need to keep going? I swear, and Im sorry this isnt entirely directed at you, but I told Dave in tears this morning at 1am, if ONE more person says....well why dont you move out I was going to go postal. First off, we have been looking for a place to move to where I can afford both a rent payment AND a mortgage payment, Im in Atlanta, thats not an easy thing to do. 2nd off, if we leave the house will be destroyed, he's already threatened to burn it down. I know people mean well when they say that, but jesus christ, do you really think I WANT to be living in this? Do you think I'm NOT trying to do what it takes to get away from it? My sister was a crack addict for years.....she successfully got off after using for 4 years, no drug treatment program, no 12 steps, just the desire to better her life when my parents took her child away and her ex husband was committed for 1st degree murder because he shot someone in the face while they slept because they wouldnt wake up to give him more dope. She stopped...cold turkey...it wasnt easy but she did it, and I have more admiration for her than anyone will ever know, especially now. Sober they think they dont have a problem.....Fucked up they dont care about anyone but themselves and their next hit. __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!* Last edited by ShaniFaye; 05-22-2005 at 03:29 AM..