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Constructive Criticism: Walk the Talk
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Originally Posted by quadro2000
The other problem is that everybody likes to think they could handle the truth. But we never know until we're faced with it. If you told me you thought my acting was poor in my last production, I'd like to think that I could take it...but could I? I won't know until we're there! And it also depends on various situations - their severity, whether things like dignity and pride are on the line...it's quite complicated.
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In another thread quadro2000 made me think of the natural progression of the friends giving you it honestly and the feelings of dealing with being "wrong."
Constructive criticism is hard to take that's for sure. We all do say that we can handle it, but can you really? We can all talk the talk, but can we walk the walk? Can you give an example of how you did deal with it?
For myself, every once in a while when I get into a room with a certain group of family and friends, it seems time to be "intervention time" or "pick on cynthetiq". It's not done with malice, it's done with the intention of love, and people sat down and outlined where I was falling short and what I needed to do to be better.
I recall sitting there, thinking to myself that "I know what's good for me, and how can these people who sit outside of me know anything about what goes on in my head."
By the time the second and third ones happened, I was ready to use it as a learning experience to augment the other learning that I was doing on my own. It was to help me fine tune what I didn't see because I was standing too close to it.
Personally, I know that it makes me a better person. While I don't relish it as much as being wrong at this point in my life, I do see it as very useful, especially when I remember "that which does not kill me makes me stronger."
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