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Originally Posted by billege
To answer your question: Anyone who you expect to take your engaugement seriously has the right to decide if they feel it's overly long.
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Yeah, they get to have an opinion on it, I can't stop that. But basically, I expect my friends and family to take my engagement seriously because they trust my word, not because they arbitrarily decided how long an engagement ought to be, how long we ought to be courting the idea before we 'tie the knot'.
Frankly, if I propose to my woman tomorrow and set a date ten years from now, I expect my parents to be there just the same as if I'd set the day for next freakin' week. That's called unconditional love and support. Same goes for my friends, and if they have a problem with the way I'm behaving, they can tell me, and we can talk it out, or they can stop calling themselves my friends. As long as my reasons are pure (and I'm always open to self-analysis), then what business is it of theirs?
Answer: MY commitment to the person I want to spend the rest of MY life with is nobody's business but MY own (and the business of my partner, obviously - though, that isn't the question), and frankly, I don't give a shit if my friends and family take me seriously or not - about as much as I care whether they think it's overly long or not. They can raise their opinion to me, sure, I won't deny them that. But I won't accept ridicule, doubt or nit-picking on the basis of value judgements as long as I believe what I'm doing is right for me, for my partner, and in both cases, for the right reasons.
I suppose what all this boils down to is: It's your engagement, and it can last for the rest of your life if you and your partner so choose. That's my opinion on the matter.
Edit: With all that said, I agree with this one hundred per cent:
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Originally Posted by billege
If you're serious about getting married, do it. You could get hit by a bus tommorow and die. Life is too short to dick around.
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