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billege · 05-20-2005, 08:42 AM

I chuckle at people with long engaugements.

There's always that couple who gets engauged, and for a whole bucket of reasons, puts the date years out.

I'm still waiting to see a pair of them actually get married. In my personal experiance (and I'm sure you could write a page why this doesn't apply to you) couples with the really long engaugements (anything over 18 months is "long" in my book) don't end up actually getting married. Mostly, it's because they're not serious about it in the first place.

They're never actually doing any wedding planning, just talking about it, and sometimes I swear it's just for attention. Most times, the couple thinks they're all serious about it though.
When I say wedding planning, I mean deciding what you're going to do and writing checks. Once the money starts flowing, it's a pretty reliable sign they're going to do it.

While there's nothing "wrong" with a long enguagement, I'm saying I've never actually met anyone whose long enguagement resulted in a marriage. Not once. I'm sure, with the wider audiance of the TFP (which is more people than I've met) someone did it.

While I'm at it, I'd like to express an opinion on your plan to live together and get your finances together.

Now, there's nothing wrong with getting $$ figured out. However, you can do that as a married couple just as well as a couple shacking up and pretending to be married, but without the actual responsibilies that come with being married.

If you're serious about getting married, do it. You could get hit by a bus tommorow and die. Life is too short to dick around.

I'm not suggesting you run off and get married tonight, unless you want to. But, I am saying that I think wanting to live together (unmarried) for years, when you've made (supposedly) the choice to get married is lame.

It's lame because you're saying to teh world "we've made the choice to get married" and you're asking everyone to take that seriously, then you're failing to step up to the plate.

I understand the distance factor, and the money factor, and all that stuff. If you're ready to get married, MAKE IT HAPPEN, don't dick around wasting everyone's time.

When you get out of school, whatnot, and you can make the marriage happen, you should.

Everything else is just stalling.

05-20-2005, 08:42 AM	#16 (permalink)
billege Watcher Location: Ohio	I chuckle at people with long engaugements. There's always that couple who gets engauged, and for a whole bucket of reasons, puts the date years out. I'm still waiting to see a pair of them actually get married. In my personal experiance (and I'm sure you could write a page why this doesn't apply to you) couples with the really long engaugements (anything over 18 months is "long" in my book) don't end up actually getting married. Mostly, it's because they're not serious about it in the first place. They're never actually doing any wedding planning, just talking about it, and sometimes I swear it's just for attention. Most times, the couple thinks they're all serious about it though. When I say wedding planning, I mean deciding what you're going to do and writing checks. Once the money starts flowing, it's a pretty reliable sign they're going to do it. While there's nothing "wrong" with a long enguagement, I'm saying I've never actually met anyone whose long enguagement resulted in a marriage. Not once. I'm sure, with the wider audiance of the TFP (which is more people than I've met) someone did it. While I'm at it, I'd like to express an opinion on your plan to live together and get your finances together. Now, there's nothing wrong with getting $$ figured out. However, you can do that as a married couple just as well as a couple shacking up and pretending to be married, but without the actual responsibilies that come with being married. If you're serious about getting married, do it. You could get hit by a bus tommorow and die. Life is too short to dick around. I'm not suggesting you run off and get married tonight, unless you want to. But, I am saying that I think wanting to live together (unmarried) for years, when you've made (supposedly) the choice to get married is lame. It's lame because you're saying to teh world "we've made the choice to get married" and you're asking everyone to take that seriously, then you're failing to step up to the plate. I understand the distance factor, and the money factor, and all that stuff. If you're ready to get married, MAKE IT HAPPEN, don't dick around wasting everyone's time. When you get out of school, whatnot, and you can make the marriage happen, you should. Everything else is just stalling. __________________ I can sum up the clash of religion in one sentence: "My Invisible Friend is better than your Invisible Friend."