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Originally Posted by Sage
Your wife sounds like she is battling a history of depression. You need to recognize this, and also realize that, while you are not solely responsible for her happiness, you are her HUSBAND and therefore have a responsibility for her well being. She needs help. You either love her enough to get her help NO MATTER WHAT, or you don't. If you don't love her enough to get her help, why are you married to her? She's not going to "get better" by herself, not if she's clinically depressed. Talk to a pastor/therapist/counselor alone and ask what your next course of action should be. If you love her you should help her, not shy away from something that you pretend to not understand.
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While I think you're correct about the depression, I disagree that he can "get her help NO MATTER WHAT."
I watched a family member drink himself to death, and there wasn't a damn thing anyone, whether friend or family, could do about it. Some people refuse to allow themselves to be helped.
Yes, StephenSa screwed up. Who hasn't? Probably 90% of men have been asked the loaded question, "Am I faaaaaaaaaattt????" or its evil twin, "Do these pants make my butt look big?" You only have to answer one of those wrong a single time to spend about a month in the doghouse. Did I mention that there's no RIGHT answer to either one?
So my message is that you can't win. Sometimes women just aren't rational. Same is true with men, but there are some situations with women that are unescapable. Usually you get "forgiven" sooner or later, but they damn sure never forget.