Tough love is my thing - so here goes...
She's too immature to be a fiance. Is she too young for a relationship? No Are you too young? No. But she has a lot of issues that she needs to work out before she can be 100 percent in a relationship, and it doesn't sound like you are the guy to help her with those issues.
She needs professional help.
She's 17 and has been thru all that, sounds like she's made a lot of really bad decisions for herself and has never dealt with any of those decisions. She needs to and quickly before it turns worse. Has she had any professional therapy or counselling? What do her parents say?
When she smoked the joint with the guy yesterday, was that the guy who almost raped her? Or was it someone else.
This young woman is extremely damaged and I'm betting extremely fragile and needs to be put back together before she can consider being in a healthy adult relationship.
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