Lurkette: I get your point, but you didn't highlight it the way I was thinking it im my head (if that makes sense).
I was meaning that the boy should be allowed to find his preferences naturally. If that means he thinks he's straight and doesn't realise he's gay, or vice versa, then it's his journey to make.
I was trying to get some thoughts on the supreme irony of a family that are SO liberal and cool about homosexuality that they seem to think it's a badge of honour to have a gay son.
Don't get me wrong - he's a great kid, and I love him to pieces, one day he'll make someone a great wife
I just want him to be happy, and I don't think deciding he must be gay because he likes dance is any more smart than deciding your kid must be straight because he wants to shoot guns.