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Originally Posted by chickentribs
That is a good point, sweetpea and I am sure most if not all the women I know would agree 100%... It's probably a big part of the reason male escorts haven't had the luck in growing their industry like the ladies!
If, however, you had a friend who came to you and said that she had gone to italy for the week and on the last night met a handsome young man who was cheezy but romantic and she got swept up in the moment and made love in the back of gondola and knew it was wrong but... etc.
Would you approve? Disapprove? Laugh with her and not say anything?
Would the fact that she was in Italy abroad change your mind as opposed to down the street from her house at the local bar? Would the this gentleman's romantic efforts make it more respectable than a massage parlor in Tokyo?
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No, i wouldn't disapprove, that would be her perogative, and if both parties were willing and practiced safe sex, then all the more power to her.
And would she be paying him to be romantic? You took money out of the scenerio.
I don't see any problem with getting a 'special' massage at a parlor in Tokyo, if the women are there of Free Will and enjoy their line of work, then i think it's fine.
But what if the Woman DOESN'T enjoy doing it?? Wouldn't the man feel guilty paying a woman to do something she might detest? Doesn't that matter to men how the person performing the sex act feels??
I guess that is what it comes down to for me. Let's say i paid someone to get me off . . . man or woman, doesn't matter . . . but would they enjoy it? Do they enjoy their work? What circumstances lead them into the sex trade? Would they want to get me off in real life, without money involved. If all the answers were honestly positive to those questions i would feel different.
I guess, bottom line:
I care about how the other person feels and who they are, i care if they are enjoying themselves or not, even though i would be paying them for a service, i cannot just disconnect from this other human being who's being intimate with me.
I don't know how some men (and i guess some women who pay for services) can do that, just disconnect.
Let's take hookers or 'sex trade workers'
Bottom line: No woman WANTS to be a hooker, maybe a few do, but most don't really choose the lifestyle, they fall into it.
Let's use some extreme, but ACTUAL circumstances. I KNOW a woman who was a hooker and it was some of the saddest days of her life . . . And i wish that someone had shaken her straight and told her she didn't have to do it anymore.
In America at least:
Some of these women in the sex trade are being abused and their boyfriends force them to sell their bodies.
A good percentage, especially the young run aways are homeless and need the money from selling their bodies for food, to survive.
HOW can a man look away from the misery of this person who is pleasuring him?
How can he disconnect from the unhappiness of the person and just pay for his pleasure and leave without a second thought?
I couldn't do that.
Maybe because i Know someone who used to be a hooker, i have a more realistic perspective.
People can do what they want and i approve. But only if both parties are consenting and truly willing to be there, whether or not money is involved, i don't care about the money, what i care about is if the person being paid is happy to be there or not.
Good questions!
Sweet Pea