When my daughter was born, I had no choice but to work full time. We would have never survived on just his salary alone. I hated every moment of it. I missed her so much and really wanted to be with her. Ihated that someone else was taking care of her. After my son was born, we were financially better, but still could not survive on 1 salary alone. So I work part time, 3 full days a week at work, 2 days home. I think this is the perfect medium for me. I do not think I could be a sahm completely. I think it is commendable for those that do, I am sure it is a tough job. But on the other hand being a working mom, whether full time or part time, is also very hard. You are still expected to take care of kids and home, as well as work.
Now I feel guilty that I can spend time with my son, that I did not get with my daughter. If I could change anything, I would have liked to work part time when my daughter was younger.
Which do you feel is better for the child? They both have pros and cons. While my daughter was in a full day daycare/preschool, they were able to teach her so much more than I could, and I didnt have to worry about her going to kindergarten. She was more than ready, academically and emotionally. Now my son is not getting this, but he has more time with me and his grandma. He is not getting the academics that my daughter got and it will be hard for him to go to school and leave home. But this is just me. I am sure there are sahm's that are able to teach their kids things. I just cannot. I do not feel comfortable saying either one is better. Full day daycare was bad for me, I felt guilty for not being with her, she knew no different.
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Last edited by Meditrina; 05-12-2005 at 06:17 PM..
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