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Originally Posted by sweetpea
Well for conversation's sake, let's reverse the situation and make it a male escort we're talking about for a woman:
I don't see how i could get excited paying some guy to fuck me(well, or a woman either for that matter).
Having sex is about feeling each other and it being a mutual thing for me, that's part of the excitment, not because some guy did XYZ to get me off, that feels somehow clinical and makes the experience seems cold.
I wouldn't enjoy it. Just the fact that i was paying some guy to do it, not because he wanted to, in fact, he might detest giving oral sex, but i wouldn't know that because i was paying him to do it and he would put on a happy front, the lack of connection during something so intimate would leave me feeling cold and i would feel like i was using him. Sweet Pea
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That is a good point, sweetpea and I am sure most if not all the women I know would agree 100%... It's probably a big part of the reason male escorts haven't had the luck in growing their industry like the ladies!
If, however, you had a friend who came to you and said that she had gone to italy for the week and on the last night met a handsome young man who was cheezy but romantic and she got swept up in the moment and made love in the back of gondola and knew it was wrong but... etc.
Would you approve? Disapprove? Laugh with her and not say anything?
Would the fact that she was in Italy abroad change your mind as opposed to down the street from her house at the local bar? Would the this gentleman's romantic efforts make it more respectable than a massage parlor in Tokyo?
That one night stand, or any sex without love for that matter, should be as morally reprehensible as sex with the massage attendant in Japan with or without religious belief. I'm not sure where a handjob would fall - seems like gray area to me, but let's treat it all the same. I know that the exchange of money gets to people and they would rather she not work and then God knows what happens to her. It just doesn't hold water that her taking money should be the single influencing factor as good or bad. If he met her and wanted to give her money instead of her asking for it, would that be better?
Our government treats sex like a disease to be rooted out from the bedrooms of deviants and criminals and goes a long way towards inhibiting people from being able to have sexual relations with people that they do love in a comfortable and responsible way. Shame is the most worthless of all emotions.
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For me I feel the whole thing is a bit dirty, or sleezy.
I also worry about how safe this stuff is.
I just feel it is something I wouldn't want people to know I did.
If I am going to feel ashamed, then I would rather not do it.
I don't think it is wrong though, victomless, and good business.
So I guess I'm struggling with instilled morals.
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Vincentt, if you get the opportunity to check it out I hope you do. Morals or values that you can discard on an airplane will never have much value to you. Good luck and enjoy your experience!