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Originally Posted by lurkette
Give up the control shit and the hard to get shit and the being the center of the universe shit and act like an adult. I am not willing to be a cog in someone's self-esteem machine.
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You hit the nail on the head, lurkette... this is the thing that has ALWAYS bugged me most about other women, when they are trying to play the "mysterious" role and get attention that way. And actually, the sad fact is that most of them succeed... many, many guys LOVE the mysterious woman, the whole "chase" and game thing, and that's WHY the women continue doing it... because they see how the girls who are "one of the guys" don't get boyfriends until college or afterwards.
It is also, unfortunately, the thing that bugs me most about myself... I am almost always "one of the guys," but occasionally I feel 12 years old again and see myself as the uncool dorky girl around all the chic kids, and feel more insecure than ever about my looks, my behavior, etc (I don't take on the mysterious-woman persona, nor do I start acting like a girly-girl around guys, but I still feel insecure). This is something I deal with more often than I'd like to admit, though I am constantly working on it. I don't think that only women do this... men do it, too, and the insecure ones have their own ways of getting attention. But I think the more aware you are of those behaviors, the more you can work on getting rid of them... women can become "one of the guys," and guys can become "one of the gurls"... at least, in my utopian world.
