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Originally Posted by pules
StanT - much props for making your comment. You sound really fed up with the situation you're in. Not sure if you've done this already, but do your wife know how you feel? Have you told her, in the exact words you used here, how you feel about what she may do for you?
From my personal experience, the first couple of years, I really had to set some ground work between me and my gf. I've spend so much time telling her, "Hey, I'm not really good with sugar-coding things." And so far it's worked; thus being together for 6 years.
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Actually, I've been married 25 years and we get along pretty well. She does a reasonably good job of tolerating my (ever so minor
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Originally Posted by maleficent
You are painting one entire gender with a pretty broad stroke, making the lot of us out to be an irrational group.
You're also making a big assumption that the male side is actually comminicating to the female side (or vice versa) is communicating clearly and saying what they want.
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Every individual is different, but women seem to prefer an indirect approach, where men are much more direct. I'm not sure I'd go with irrational, but it is definately an irritating tactic (and yes, it seems like an intentional tactic).