You need a lesson in tact. Honesty can be a beautiful thing that gets a lot accomplished if you know how and when to say what you're trying to say. Without any tact, you're being counterproductive. If you MUST get the issue taken care of while grouping all of your problems together for one big jam session, take an indirect approach. We women (and a lot of men!) tend to base a lot of our value on our appearance. We don't TRY to do this, it's just been bashed into us in and from various forms. Talk about yourself and how you'd like to get yourself into better shape. After you're finished talking about what needs work on your end, ask her if she'd care to join. If she doesn't, it'll probably happen anyway if you're serious about getting yourself back on track. Dump the crap food from the house and well, if it's not there, she's going to have to go out of her way to eat it. If you start preparing healthier meals, chances are, she'll not go out of her way to prepare another entire meal just for herself. Eventually, she may join you in activity if that's something you find yourself doing. Someone has to take the lead - why not you? A marriage is about a little give and take. Teamwork. Work TOGETHER, not against each other.
Run, man, to apologize and hash this out. Take a different approach and make her feel better.
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A hard man is good to find. ~Mae West
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