I don't use the term "completion," but I do feel better about myself and my life now that I have a son. I feel that it's just a piece in the puzzle of my life. Two years ago, I could not imagine my life with kids. I grew up in a very close family with a lot of traditional family values, but having children was not what I saw for my future. Period. Fate intervened and I can see now that I was meant to be a mother. Surprisingly (to me), motherhood comes very naturally and very easily. Second nature, I suppose. I could see myself with one more, but only after I'm able to devote the time to that child that my toddler son currently receives.
I believe that some people are meant to be mothers and some people aren't. There's nothing negative about deciding not to have children and I applaude people who can make that choice. I feel that a child should be a compliment to your life/your family's life, but certainly not a "completion." Life is never really "complete" and always evolving, so I guess that's why I don't like the thought that "a baby completes my life."
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